Many of you know that I have been going to the fitness center to swim for oh… about 7 yrs or so. I started when K was in ballet in that town 4x a week! I needed something more to do than wander in stores and find things I “needed”! I’ve really enjoyed it!
It was perfect timing for an aqua aerobics class. Love it! Even tho ballet ended way back in 2003, I still enjoy going to swim.

However last January {2009}, our instructor for all those years moved on to full-time employment. You know the panic one feels when the SS update comes and you have NOTHING! :p And the replacement has not cut it. Nope. Nadda.
Most of my “friends” have quit going. There were about 4 of us ‘originals’ left. New ones came in but the class was never the same. Not just socially b/c I’m fine with new friends but not very aerobic! (I commented many-a-time… {of course under my breath…} I’m NOT 80 y/o!! In other words, don’t lead the “Aqua Burner” class like the arthritis class in the mornings!)
Note to Marci: Karen, purple suit, tall, now comes in the early afternoons too!
But really, now that I’m “retired”, I’m not bound by the time schedule as the previous 7 yrs. 🙂

So about 3 weeks ago, I started going to the pool just after lunch. I get there about 1:30 or so and it isn’t busy. My only drawback is that it can get lonely and then I’m bored after only 20 mins and leave. Not much work-out.
However, 2 weeks ago there was a group of older ladies in the shallow end, moving a bit. It was like the Cheers bar! Sylvia would come in and everyone would greet her, same with Shirley, even the “other” Joyce, etc!! 🙂 One day, a lady got in the deep end where I was working. We chatted about the lovely sunshine and how perfectly heated the water was, and then she started introducing me to the other ladies! 🙂 We were at the edge of the deep end where we wanted to be but in close-enough proximity to the ladies that stay in the shallow end for chatting. I’m still trying to remember all their names.
Yes, I’m 20-30 + years their junior but they were kind none-the-less. 🙂
As I headed out that day, I thanked them for their visiting and said I now “had 8 new friends”!!
I know Peg from quilt retreats so it is fun to talk quilting with her.
They come about that time every day so only see me on T & Th.
On Tuesday, there were only a few of us. Phil (not mine; stays mostly in the deep end where I work out), Betty (nice lady), unknown and more of a lap swimmer lady that didn’t visit, and Roy (just learned his name; laps swims and only has one leg, tho his other one waits for him at a chair on the deck). So Phil & Betty & I were chatting.
Came to find out that during this time period on Friday, a man died.
Roy hollered for someone to call 911 as he tried to drag him over to the edge while Peg (quilter friend) and 2 others worked to launch “Joe” to the deck edge. Phil had already gotten out but had passed Joe in the locker room. Roy exclaimed Joe had just done 2 laps! and then he was found him like this. Not swimming & blue. 😦 I assume a massive heart attack mid-swim.
The circle of ladies chatting never heard anything or noticed until Roy called for help.
As I got out of the pool on Tuesday, Roy had finished his laps and was resting at the shallow end. I said I was sorry for his Friday and asked how he was handling it. He said that was his first day back to the pool. It was hard. 😦
As I changed clothes, several of the points about Joe sounded a lot like another quilter friend’s husband and that had me sad. So I hurried home (maybe there was still time to see her at a visitation) and I quickly checked online to see if it was my friend’s husband really. (about the same age, same place of employment, same number & gender of children, one son a doctor, …. seemed like a lot of matches!) Thankfully, it wasn’t that family. I didn’t know Joe at all.
Roy wasn’t there Thursday.
But Betty was there and greeted me like the others when I got in. 🙂 I seem to be “in” with them. 😉
Phil introduced me to Jeri & her friend as I headed to the deep end where they were.
On Tuesday, I had said to Phil & Betty that I was newly “retired” since I had homeschooled our kids for 17 years and now the youngest was in college. They were hesitantly interested.
So on Thursday, as Phil introduced me to Jeri, he said that Jeri’s son and DIL homeschool their children! Jeri, was taken aback. Shocked that I had done it so long, that the kids stayed home through high school, etc. The usual response we are used to receiving! She came over near where I was working and continued to ask about homeschooling & the kids.
Jeri: Did you take them to other homes for art, and music, and all those classes?
Me: No, we had them at home for all their classes. In fact, we never did art classes and our daughter graduated from the Art Institute last summer.
Jeri: The Art Institute of Chicago? (gasp!)
Me: Yes.
Jeri: I’m from Chicago. I grew up there! When I was in 8th grade, I won the chance to take a class at The Art Institute! (as she melts into a pile of warm butter…..) 🙂
So we continued on and mostly I reassured her that GOOD things come from homeschooled kids, they do make it in the real world, are perfectly socialized, and are good citizens. 🙂
After a bit, I added we live in the country and she said her son’s family does too. They rent a house on a farm. She asked if someone farmed our farm. 🙂 Yes, my husband!! I explained about this being his family’s farm.
She exclaimed, “Like with cows?”
LOL!!
Well, “like” that but we have hogs and he raises corn & soybeans.
*stunned look on Jeri’s face*
And then I silently remind myself she “grew up in Chicago”. 🙂
She asked if we get attached to the pigs and if it is hard to sell them. 🙂 So I explained that this has been my husband’s life for 48 yrs (as of this weekend! *gasp!!*) and that there are way too many to get attached.
Jeri: Do you have pets? (groping for a glimmer of compassion it seemed)
So then I explained about the 2 dogs and she was so relieved! LOL!! Nearly teary as I told her about “old” Molly at 10 1/2 yrs old and the 90 pound “puppy” that is just full of it and loves to r u n!! Then I learned her beloved dog died last May and the new dog they adopted is wonderful but still not the previous dog. You know how that goes….
We threw in some good paragraphs on dogs and mud and vacuums and shopping on overstocks.com. 🙂

Her workout time was up and she thanked me for sharing with her about homeschooling. She was trying really hard to understand it. I hope this helps with her relationship with the granddaughters & DIL. 🙂
I chatted quilting with Peg for the rest of my time. With some health issues discussion of hers thrown in for good measure. She wanted to head out to get home in time to dry her hair as she had a visitation to attend. Joe’s. 😦
Sorry to be a wet blanket in this post. I have to process this somehow. I’m thankful that I wasn’t there last Friday.
I was at my massage.
Across the street from the fitness center.
At the same time.
I pulled in the parking lot as the ambulance came down the street.
And heard the ambulance head to the hospital.
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Not by choice, but I saw the sun rise this morning. It was lovely! 🙂 My dad has mentioned we have good sunrises….. heehee!
Wednesday & Thursday I made a batch of soap, face wash, oil-free moisturizer, and MSM cream to replenish K’s stock. I need to add labels to them today, move the soap downstairs to cure, and get caught up and prepped for a busy weekend. I think I need to sew something!!
The weekly hog truck was due at 8:15 this morning. Arrived at 7:30 a.m.
JP is out the door for a math test & writing class. Lunch will be chicken & dumplings but YAHOO FOR ME!!! I cooked the chicken last night and it is done & deboned. 🙂
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